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Excerpts from these articles: |
Adapting to a Chronic Illness
Volume XIX,
Num 3
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Gifts come in strange forms. Our task is
to look for them, recognize them, and
make them our own. The disabled often say that those who are able-bodied
are just temporarily so, that most of us at some point
in our lives will suffer from physical disability. |
Freedom from Verbal Abuse
Volume XIX,
Num 2
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A home should be a happy place, or at least a safe
place. Dealing daily with the outside world, with
its tensions, pressures, and surprises, can be
difficult. The home is a place to come back to,
a place to feel free, relaxed, and comfortable. |
Arguing Constructively, and Not So Constructively
Volume XIX,
Num 1
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A Good Argument Has Its Up Side – But Only If We Fight Fairly
All couples argue. This is a normal and expected part of any relationship. Of course, some relationship experts say that arguing is healthy, while others say beware. |
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PTSD - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Volume XVIII,
Num 5
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Most of us build our lives around the belief that we
will be relatively safe. Granted, normal daily life
involves many stressors, especially in these hectic
times, but we expect these pressures to happen
and we become accustomed to handling them. |
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Social Anxiety -
Overcoming Shyness
Volume XVIII,
Num 4
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Ask people what they fear the most and many of them
will answer, “speaking in public.” In surveys that
ask people about their fears, about one person in
five reports an extreme fear of public speaking. |
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Loss Can
Bring Gain
Volume XVIII,
Num 3
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Loss is embedded in the process of living. It happens to
everyone and it is inevitable. There is no such thing
as constant gain in our lives. Despite our wish
to live in the security of abundance and perfect
health. |
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Working on Your Relationship
Volume XVIII,
Num 2
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You Can Create a Successful
Relationship – Even If You Must Do It Alone. Conflicts can be expected to arise in even the
strongest of relationships. |
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Resilient Personality
Volume XVIII,
Num 1
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All of us experience major disruptions at
certain points in our lives. For some,
these hard times come frequently – the impact
of the trauma is overwhelming and recovery,
if it comes at all, can be painfully slow. |
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"What About Depression?"
Volume XVII,
Num 6
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Everyone feels sad from time to time.
It’s only natural. Most people go through blue
days or just periods of feeling down, especially
after they experience a loss. But what experts
call clinical depression is different from just
being “down in the dumps.” |
"Handling Personality Conflicts"
Volume XVII,
Num 5
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Some people are easy to be around and some are not. All of us seem to have at least a few difficult friends in our lives. They can range from those who are a mild annoyance to those who can make life seem nearly intolerable at times ... especially if we lack the tools for responding to them in an adaptive way. |
"Addictions"
Volume XVII,
Num 4
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We are all pleasure seekers. There are pleasure centers located in the human brain, which, when activated, are associated with feelings of euphoria. This happens to us every day.... Addictive behavior can be seen as an attempt to control our daily cycles by maximizing pleasurable... |
"To Forgive"
Volume XVII,
Num 3
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All of us have been hurt, in one way or another,
by someone else. While it is easy to forgive
a friend for the slight distress we feel over a
phone call that was not returned, |
"Relationship Conflicts"
Volume XVII,
Num 2 |
Relationships are seldom as simple as we would
like. They bring out our needs, anxieties, and
conflicts with people from our past – parents,
friends, and former partners. |
"Rumination"
Volume XVII,
Num 1 |
Thinking about our problems is, without doubt,
part of an effective way of solving them.... But sometimes we get stuck at the thinking stage of
problem-solving and go no farther. |
"The Altruism Option"
Volume XVI,
Num 6 |
Altruism, or giving to others... Two people sharing their resources
can produce more than two individuals acting alone in
most circumstances. |
"Relationship Addiction"
Volume XVI,
Num 5 |
The experience of finding the right partner and
falling “in love” is one of life’s true joys. ... Of course, sometimes it lapses
... Being in love,
for them, can resemble an addiction. |
"Understanding Anxiety"
Volume XVI,
Num 4 |
Anxiety is the body’s reaction to an event that
is experienced as disturbing or threatening....
the fear of losing things that are
important to us, such as our jobs or friends. |
"Loneliness"
Volume XVI,
Num 3 |
If you feel lonely, you’re not alone.
Loneliness is a subjective sense of isolation –
a feeling of not being able to connect with other
people, a sense of being apart. |
"Understanding Anger"
Volume XVI,
Num 2 |
We all get angry. Many people choose not to
believe this, but anger is a universal human
emotion that can help us survive and solve some of
life’s problems – or, conversely, it can create further
trouble. |
"Depression in Men"
Volume XVI,
Num 1 |
The incidence of depression in our society seems
to be on the rise. Recent estimates suggest that as
many as one in three of us will experience some
form of depression within our lifetimes. |
"Self-Reflection and the Inward Looking Person"
Volume XV,
Num 6 |
We live in a world of extroverts. Our social
norms are geared to people who are “out
there” ...When so much of our
attention is directed outwardly, however, we can lose
track of our own authentic needs. |
"Staying Together"
Volume XV,
Num 5 |
When we make a commitment to our partner,
our usual expectation is that our relationship
will last for life and that our love will see
us through the inevitable hard times. |
"Surviving the Life Crisis"
Volume XV,
Num 4 |
A life crisis is one of the inevitable features of
our lives. Learning how to survive a crisis is
a crucial skill, and one that we will probably
need more than once throughout our lives. |
"Emotional Manipulation"
Volume XV,
Num 3 |
We’ve all been manipulated by other people,
and it’s likely that we’ve done a bit of
manipulation ourselves. Telling a white lie
in order to get what we want is one way of
manipulating someone. |
"Weight Management and Your Emotions"
Volume XV,
Num 1
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Obesity is at epidemic proportions in the United
States and most Westernized countries. If
you are overweight, you are hardly alone, as
you can see by looking around you. |
"Making Life Change"
Volume XIV,
Num 6
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Why do people seek help from a psychotherapist?
Psychotherapy helps people in many
ways. For some, it is a way to understand
themselves better. For others, it helps to find meaning
in their lives. |
"Friendship and Social Support – The Laws of Attraction "
Volume XIV,
Num 5
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Since 1985 the number of people who say
they have no one to talk to has doubled.
The lack of social contacts and social support,
despite our technological advances over the
past decades, is one of the downsides to the huge
transformations that have taken place in our society. |
"It Takes Two – A Way to Understand Relationship Conflicts "
Volume X, Num 3
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Relationships are seldom as simple
as we would like. They bring out
our needs, anxieties, and conflicts
with people from our past – parents,
friends and former partners. Our relationships with our partners are colored by
our own personal legacies. |
"Forgiveness"
Volume VIII,
Num 2
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All of us have been hurt, in one way or another, by someone
else. While it is easy to forgive a friend for the slight
distress we feel over a phone call that was not returned, it is
not so easy to forgive those who have harmed us in a major
way. |
"Resilience - The Ability to Bounce Back"
Volume IX, Num 4
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All of us experience major disruptions at certain
points in our lives. In fact, this is an expected and
predictable hallmark of the human condition. |
"Working Alone on Your Relationship"
Volume VIII,
Num 1
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Conflicts and periods of doubt can arise in even the strongest
of relationships. Two people who attempt to create a relationship
always bring their own issues, backgrounds, expectations,
personalities, and inner difficulties into the interplay that
occurs between them. |
"Strengthening Families"
Volume IX, Num 2
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One key to an emotionally healthy life is having the
support of a strong, supportive family. A strong
family may be as small as two people or as large
as a kinship network of grandparents, aunts, uncles and
cousins. |
"Anger - Managing a Powerful Emotion"
Volume VII,
Num 6
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All of us get angry
– although some
people might not like
to believe this. Anger
is an emotion that can
occur when there is a
threat to our selfesteem,
our bodies,
our property, our
ways of seeing the
world, or our desires. |
"Interpersonal Conflict and Effective Communication"
Volume IX, Num 1
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Conflict between people
is a fact of life – and it’s
not necessarily a bad thing.
In fact, a relationship with frequent conflict may be
healthier than one with no observable conflict. |
"Dealing with Difficult People"
Volume VII,
Num 4
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Some people are easy to be around and some are not. All
of us seem to have at least a few difficult people in our
lives. Difficult people can range from those who are a mild
annoyance to those who can make life seem
nearly intolerable at times. |
"Boundaries in Relationships"
Volume VIII,
Num 4
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A successful relationship is composed of two individuals –
each with a clearly defined sense of her or his own
identity. |
"Life's Transitions"
Volume VII,
Num 2
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Throughout the course of our lives we experience
many endings and many beginnings. In nature we
observe times when things
move slowly without visible
change – and then suddenly
an acceleration occurs followed
by a transformation. |
